This originally appeared on the Art Body Soul Life Page on Facebook, February 8, 2017. The artwork was part of the post that was attributed to Robyn Rosemary Foyn.
I see a lot of comments on FB about how we need to let go of our old stories, as though they were useless baggage we hold on to for no reason whatsoever except to make ourselves unhappy.
But sometimes these old stories are not over.
Wounds and losses and trauma that happened decades ago don’t always have a use by date where they become ‘old’ or obsolete. The repercussions of some things can continue to affect us for the rest of our lives.
When they become part of our story we are chastised for this, sometimes phrased as ‘letting it affect us’. As though we were faulty for still being triggered sometimes, for feeling sad or scared or overwhelmed in some situations. This is just another version of ‘move on’ and ‘get over it’.
Our old stories are filled with wisdom. They tell us where we’ve been and how far we’ve come. Without them we wouldn’t know our triumphs, or where we still need to heal. It’s ok to own your stories. Find meaning in them, let them help you acknowledge your struggles and your strengths. Let them tell you when to say no, when to ask for support. None of us get out of this unscathed. Your story will be a breadcrumb for others. I want to hear how in your darkest hours, you found your way through. I want to know how you got your scars and how you’re still here in spite of them. I want to learn how you held on to hope when you were told you were worthless. Those are your old stories. Don’t let go of them.
I don’t want to hear how you drink green juice every day, always think positively, and live every day to the fullest. I know you don’t. Your story is much richer and wilder than that.